What the Holy Bible says about Sex:
18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (1 Corinthians 6: 18-20)
15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” 17 But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. (1 Corinthians 6: 15-17)
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. (Ephesians 5: 3)
3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God. (1 Thessalonians 4: 3-5)
12 The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. 13 Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. 14 Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh. (Romans 13: 12-14)
9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Corinthians 6: 9-11)
Something worth considering:
The Holy Bible includes a book called the “Song of Songs” which tells of the beauty of romantic love as it progresses from courtship to marriage to a maturing relationship between a man and a woman. It provides a picture of ideal love, desire, and pleasure in a marriage.
Our bodies were designed to enjoy sexual intimacy. God clearly intended for sexual intimacy to be pleasurable — but He also intended it to be the ultimate intimacy in a wholesome and holy relationship between a man and a woman who have made a lifelong covenant with each other. A special bond is formed when sexual intimacy is the culmination of a relationship that has already been built on a solid foundation of love and commitment.
The same is not true for sex outside of marriage. While casual sex may feel exciting and/or pleasurable at the moment, it cannot even come close to the pleasure that God intended sex to be. When you have sexual intimacy without first having emotional intimacy and a genuine lifelong commitment, you are cheating yourself out of what God really wants you to have. Sex and love are not the same thing. If you want love, don’t settle for just sex. Its like settling for eating the crumbs that fell from the banquet table instead of cherishing and relishing the feast that has been prepared for you.
In addition to cheating you out of what sexual intimacy was meant to be, casual sex usually results in feelings of emptiness and disappointment. You can tell that something is missing. What was intended to be a supremely intimate act of love becomes little more than a biological act. A relationship that is not built on a genuinely strong foundation cannot weather the storms of life. A relationship that is built primarily on sexual intimacy usually breaks apart — and when it does, your heart is likely to get broken. The resulting heartache is usually much worse than it would have been if you had not had sex with that person.
When you are sexually intimate, you give a part of yourself that was intended to be a special and sacred gift. It was intended to be jealously guarded and only given to the one person who has deeply committed to you for a lifetime. When you give that gift to someone who has not made a lifelong commitment to you, you cheapen the value of the gift and it will be treated accordingly.
If you are in a “committed” relationship but not yet married, the commitment is not complete, therefore it is still a sin in the eyes of God. If you want God’s blessing for your marriage, demonstrate your heartfelt desire for God’s blessings by not engaging in sexual sin before your marriage.
If you have already been sexually active outside of marriage, stop now. Do what is right in the eyes of God. Make a commitment to abstain from sexual intimacy outside of marriage. Starting now. Today.
God blesses obedience. If you want His blessings, be obedient to His will.